If you want to put on some cologne or perfume, keep it light. Too much smell can turn people off (or even give them a headache). If you normally wear makeup, feel free to put some on! Whatever makes you feel cool and comfortable.
If you are going somewhere super fancy (like a dinner party), feel free to dress up! For a masculine look, go for dark wash jeans, a basic T-shirt, and a structured jacket. For a more feminine look, try some high waisted jeans, a crop top, and some booties.
If you want something to do with your hands, grab a drink to sip on. Try to look at your phone as little as possible. If women think you’re absorbed in your technology, they’ll be less likely to come up and talk to you.
Remember, you don’t have to drink alcohol if you don’t want to, even if you’re going to a club or a bar. Soda is perfectly fine! It will be much easier to approach a woman when you’re both in party mode. Approaching women on the street when they’re out and about can be tough, and it could make them feel uncomfortable.
Don’t assume that every woman you see is single or looking for a relationship. Just because she’s out at a bar or a nightclub doesn’t necessarily mean she’s looking for anything right now. If she has headphones on or is in the middle of something (like reading a book), she probably isn’t interested.
Try saying something like, “I noticed you bobbing your head to the music. I love this song too!” Remember, women are just people! There’s no need to use a cheesy pickup line or flirt heavily right away. Make sure you respect her personal space, and don’t get too close too quickly.
Try asking something like, “So are you here with your friends?” If she’s responding to all your questions and asking some of her own, that means she’s probably interested in continuing the conversation. If you’re getting short, one-word answers, it’s probably time to wrap it up and go somewhere else.
If she’s crossing her arms, not meeting your eyes, or is turning away from you, she’s probably not interested. These signs aren’t hard and fast rules, and all women are different. Look for open body language, but don’t rely on it 100%.
You can smile, say “Have a good evening, thanks for the chat,” and walk away. Some women have a hard time saying no, even when they don’t want to talk. Take it upon yourself to not make her feel uncomfortable.
Try something like, “I really like your hair! It looks great pulled back like that. ” She might even compliment you back, which is a great sign. Don’t overdo it with compliments. Stick to one or two so you don’t seem overeager.
If she pulls back or looks uncomfortable, don’t push it.
Some women are hesitant to go home with someone they’ve just met (which is totally normal). She might suggest going back to her place or just exchanging numbers instead.
If she’s only interested in hooking up, she might ask you to come home with her instead of exchanging numbers. You can decide if you’d like to do that or not.
Getting angry or coercing a woman into spending more time with you will never work, and it will only make her feel uncomfortable.
