Easygoing. A team player. Positive, optimistic, and upbeat. Energetic and fun. Intelligent and thoughtful. Affectionate and loving. Passionate and driven.

Music, such as rock, country, rap, or classical. Reading literature, the newspaper, or poetry. Sports, such as basketball, football, running, or baseball. Playing an instrument or singing. Going to the movies or playing video games.

For example, you might determine that a girl who shares your love of music will probably frequent local concerts and music stores. Therefore, be on the lookout the next time you go to one of these places. If you have listed that you want a girl who is kind and caring, then she might volunteer at the local homeless shelter or animal rescue. Try signing up for some volunteer hours as well. If you want a girl who has the same political or religious philosophy as you do, then attend local political activism meetings or religious services.

Try talking with girls who you see on a regular basis. For example, you can strike up a conversation by saying something like, “I see you here all the time. I am a regular here, too. ” Or, “How long have you been with the company? I have been here about a year, but I don’t think we have ever had a conversation. ”

Be sure to tell your friends what type of girl you are looking for in detail, such as by sharing your lists of traits and interests with them. Your friends might have a different definition of a “sweet” girl, so be as clear as possible about what you are seeking.

Online dating is also a great option if you are a bit shy. You can talk to girls who are interested in you and not have to worry so much about rejection.

Taking a shower every day and wearing clean clothes. Brushing your teeth. Combing or styling your hair. Wearing deodorant and a bit of cologne.

If she holds your gaze, or looks away and then looks back and returns your smile, then she may be interested in talking to you. If she avoids your gaze, or does not return your smile, then she is probably not interested. Try not to make too much eye contact—you might seem intimidating. [8] X Expert Source Cher GopmanDating Coach Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.

You can also find something about the environment to strike up a conversation with her, such as saying, “This place is so busy tonight! We’re lucky we got in! I’m ___ by the way. ” Or, “Beautiful day today! I love sitting on the patio here while I sip my cappuccino. What are you drinking? I’m ___. ” Pay attention to her body language as you approach her. If she turns to face away from you as you approach or looks around the room when you approach, then she is probably not interested. Look for positive body language, such as facing you, making eye contact, smiling, etc. [9] X Expert Source Cher GopmanDating Coach Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.

“I’ve really enjoyed talking with you. Can I get your number so we can do this again sometime?” Or, “This was really fun! We should do this again. What’s your number?”

“I’m going bowling this weekend and you should definitely come along. How does Saturday night at eight sound?” “I was thinking of trying out that new sushi place tomorrow night. Do you like sushi?” “I’m going to see a movie tonight and I just thought I’d see if you are free. Want to join me?”

How was your day/week? What do you like to do for fun? What kind of music do you like? Where do you like to go on vacations? Do you like your job? What are you passionate about? Do you have roommates or do you live alone?

She is only talks about herself and does not seem interested in getting to know you. She constantly complains about her life, the restaurant, friends, family, or other things. She is rude or unreasonably demanding of the waiters or other employees in a restaurant or café. She keeps checking her phone and seems more interested in it than in engaging with you. She expresses strong political, religious, or other personal views that you disagree with.

Noting how well she listens and responds to what you say. Does she stare off into space when you are talking or start texting friends on her phone? Poor listening skills can signal trouble for a long-term relationship. Paying attention to her patience. Does she get impatient if she has to wait for you? If so, then she may have a hard time delaying gratification, which can be trouble for a long-term relationship.

Try saying something like, “I had a great time on our first date and I’d like to see you again. Would you like that too?”