Regularly tune in to how you’re feeling and express those feelings. If you need to cry, go for it. If you feel angry, find constructive ways to release that anger.
Try to open up about how you’re feeling and ask them for support. This may translate to having someone to listen to you or having someone who helps take your mind off things for a while.
When you are done, you might destroy the letter to symbolize it being in the past.
If you’d like support, ask your mom, sibling, or an unbiased third party to help you get rid of or store mementos.
Having an ugly confrontation or badmouthing your ex-bestie won’t help you get over things. Even if there’s bad blood between you, stay cool and avoid trying to make your mutual friends pick a side. If your old pal tries to pull you into any drama, say, “I don’t want to fight with you” and walk away.
Be realistic about maintaining a long-distance friendship. Your friend may not be available as often as you’d like. They are also likely to make new friends. If something went wrong between the two of you, think about whether you want to stay in touch. Remember to do what is best for you.
When everyone’s ready, talk to their parents and share funny stories about your friend. Look back at old photos and rewatch silly videos you made together. You might even write your friend a letter and read it aloud at the place of their memorial. Doing so may help you get some things off your chest so you can move forward with your life. Remember that this person will always be a part of you, no matter what. Cherish those memories. You can even keep a photo of them nearby if you’re comfortable with that.
Upgrade your self-care by getting enough sleep, exercising, getting a massage, and watching your favorite movies.
Try writing, painting, dancing, or baking. You might also plan a camping trip with your family like you did when you were younger. Or get back involved with a community youth group.
Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn Spanish or Italian. Or perhaps you want to become a master gardener. Whatever it is, find a class or read a book about the subject to start learning.
Volunteer opportunities vary based on your location. Talk to a teacher or community leader to inquire about different ways you can help out.
When you meet someone new, show your interest. Ask the person about themselves and try to find things the two of you have in common to build a connection. Don’t focus on the subject of your estranged friend. Instead, just try to get to know the new person.
Make a list of positive traits you want in a friend. Don’t be rigid to this list, but use it to determine if potential new friends fit the bill.
Good friends are excellent listeners, able to let their friends be themselves, and are there when their friends need them. Find ways in which you can start being a better friend.
Maybe you have a regular study buddy that you don’t know all that well. You might say to him after a study session, “Hey, man, I was thinking of grabbing a bite to eat. Would you like to join me?” Spending time with this person one-on-one outside your usual context may help you get to know them better.
When a potential new “best” friend presents themselves, you’ll know. Don’t allow just anyone to hold that title.
