Police School or workplace security Teachers or administrators Counselors or therapist Parents[2] X Research source
Give security and friends the description and, if possible, license plate numbers for the stalker’s vehicle. [3] X Research source
Save every bit of evidence, as well as a copy. Keep them in separate locations. Save all digital communications, such as emails and phone calls, as well. Write everything down. If you can take pictures, do so. You can never have enough evidence, no matter how small or trivial it seems. [4] X Research source
Give your children a “secret word. " If the person who comes for the children does not know the secret word when asked (by the children), then your children do not go with him/her and instead call for help immediately.
Ask police to do regular check ups of your property if you see the stalker outside or frequently driving by. If you live in an apartment or condominium, ask management about its security policies and make sure that there is not a listing of tenants easily accessible to the public.
Personal defense classes are a good way to protect yourself without having to carry a weapon or defense system. [6] X Expert Source Saul Jaeger, MSPolice Captain, Mountain View Police Department Expert Interview. 21 February 2020. [7] X Research source
Be ready to leave at a drop of a hat if needed. Instead of always worrying, have a plan in place so that you can flee without having to think or pack.
When discussing your options, bring any evidence and logs of harassment that you have. [8] X Research source
Never try to reform a stalker or assume that you can work through it. Your only option is to totally break contact. [9] X Research source
Never try to reform a stalker or assume that you can work through it. Your only option is to totally break contact. [9] X Research source
“I do not want to see you again, ever. Is that clear?” “You and I are no longer together. You need to leave now. " “This relationship is over. “[10] X Research source
Do not listen to “their side of the story,” no matter how much they beg. They are far beyond that point. [11] X Research source
Don’t try and fix things, retaliate, or get a point in. You want no contact at all – nothing positive, negative, or neutral. The only thing you should say is, “please leave before I call the police. "
If they know any of your passwords, especially your email, change all of them immediately. While it is a pain, permanently changing your email and phone number is the best way to ensure they cannot contact you at all. [12] X Research source
At the very least, put a lock on your mailbox. Do not let them get into personal information that may be delivered to you. [13] X Research source
Do not use your real name online unless absolutely necessary. Something like SportsLover86 is far safer than anything that hints at your true identity.
If you must move permanently, leave early and rent a moving service to get your things discretely. Do not wait around the house with your things.
